What if the thing standing between you and better intimacy was something as simple as the mess of a massage oil?

In this episode, Dr Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Justin and Natalie — the couple behind Evree, a 100% natural intimate massage cream that functions as both a massage product and a lubricant without leaving the sticky, oily residue that stops most couples from even trying.

Justin and Natalie share the story behind six years of development, what it cost them emotionally and financially to keep going when experts told them it wasn't possible, and why they believe physical touch and intentional intimacy can quite literally transform a marriage.

They also walk through the Core Emotion Wheel — sharing raw, real moments from their own relationship and inner life. This is a conversation about more than a product. It's about removing the barriers that keep couples from choosing each other.

In This Episode:

• The date night that started it all — and why Natalie just wanted to go to sleep
• Why massage oils and lubricants have always been two separate products (and the problems each one causes)
• The 6-year journey to create a product everyone told them was impossible
• Why Justin almost gave up — and what happened when they took one more run at it
• How Evree functions as a massage cream, lubricant, moisturizer, and body butter in one
• 100% natural ingredients, edible, vaginally safe, and non-sticky — the full wish list they achieved
• What 15,000 couples are saying about how it's changed their marriage
• New products coming: Kiss Balm and a pH-balanced intimate wash
• Justin and Natalie each go through the Core Emotion Wheel — and it's unexpectedly personal

Resources Mentioned:

Evree Intimate Massage Cream — ⁠evreesensation.com⁠

Evree Discount Code — Use code: connectioncodes for 10% off your Evree order

Evree on Instagram — ⁠@evreesensation⁠

Get the Core Emotion Wheel — ⁠connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠

Book a Connection Codes Coach — ⁠connectioncodes.co/coaches

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What if everything you've been labeling as a problem — the addiction, the affair, the marriage that feels like a hostage situation, the career that's slowly killing you — is actually a prophet trying to get your attention?

Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with Jay Stringer, psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author of Desire, for one of the most searingly honest conversations about human longing, emotional health, and the hidden roadmap inside every one of us.

Jay spent years studying why people engage in unwanted behaviors — and what he found wasn't weakness or moral failure. He found desire. Vandalized, suppressed, and rerouted desire. And he found that healing the root — not just managing the symptom — changes everything.

In This Episode

• Why "just stop doing the thing" almost never works — and what to do instead
• The 5 core desires every human has (and why over-indexing on one destroys the others)
• The concept of the "provisional self" and why so many people wake up at 60 not knowing who they are
• What bells and albatrosses can teach you about the direction your life is asking you to go
• The DMZs in your marriage — and why avoiding them is quietly killing your connection
• How symptoms are actually prophets (and what they're trying to say)
• Jay walks through the Core Emotion Wheel live — with stunning vulnerability about loneliness, sadness, and a midlife chrysalis

About Jay Stringer

Jay Stringer is a licensed psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author based in New York City. His first book, Unwanted, explored the hidden drivers of unwanted sexual behavior. His new book, Desire, offers a research-backed roadmap for developing a healthy relationship to desire across all five domains of human flourishing — wholeness, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning. He holds a master's in counseling psychology and an MDiv from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.

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Resources & Links

Get the Core Emotion Wheel — Free Resource

Book a Connection Codes Coach

Jay Stringer's book: Desire

Jay's first book: Unwanted

Jay Stringer’s Website: jay-stringer.com

Follow Jay on Instagram: @jay_stringer_

Take Jay’s Desire Profile Quiz (from the book)

Jay’s Contact Page (Linktree)

What does it look like when someone who only knew two emotions — anger and joy — finally faces the full spectrum of what they feel?

That's the story Han and Alicia Lau bring to the table this week. Married 31 years, parents to six kids, grandparents to six more — and coaches who almost skipped the Core Emotion Wheel entirely.

Alicia grew up in a world that told her to stifle her emotions, be a "good Christian girl," and never be "too much." The result? A life where anger and joy were the only acceptable exits — until a poolside audiobook moment changed everything.

In this episode, Glenn, Phyllis, Han, and Alicia unpack what it actually takes to go from emotional resistance to emotional fluency — including the 45-minute wheel session that helped Alicia finally process her father's suicide, more than a decade after his death.

In This Episode:

• Why Alicia threw the Core Emotion Wheel across the room (metaphorically) — and why she came back to it
• How blended family dynamics (and two very different cultures) shaped emotional patterns for both Han and Alicia
• The moment on their 30th anniversary that changed their marriage — doing the entire Foundations course in one weekend
• Han's breakthrough: how advising a client led him to take his own advice about shame and guilt
• Alicia's 45-minute grief wheel — and why she no longer feels her dad's death the same way in her body
• What it means to practice the wheel "like bad first sex" and why that's the most honest description of growth we've heard
• Glenn and Phyllis share their own middle-of-the-night wheel moments — and what lonely really feels like when you go deep

Resources Mentioned:

Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcast

Work with a Connection Codes Coach: connectioncodes.co/coaches

Foundations Masterclass: connectioncodes.co/foundations

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