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There are moments in life when choosing yourself can be one of the most courageous things you can do.

In this deeply moving episode of Hope Comes to Visit, I was privileged to sit down with Deborah Santana—author, activist, and voice for women’s empowerment—to explore what it means to step out of the shadows and fully into your own life.

Through her new memoir Loving the Fire: Choosing Me, Finding Freedom, Deborah shares her journey of transformation after decades of partnership, public life, and self-evolution. Together, they talk about identity, grief, growth, and the quiet courage it takes to ask: What is out of alignment—and what am I ready to change?

This conversation is for anyone standing at a crossroads, navigating loss, or wondering what it might look like to truly choose themselves.

💙 You’re not alone. I'm so glad you are here.

Connect with Deborah Santana on her Website.

Order her book - Loving the Fire: Choosing Me, Finding Freedom.

00:00 — Choosing yourself + episode introduction
01:15 — Deborah Santana’s work and new memoir Loving the Fire
02:00 — Living in someone else’s story vs. becoming yourself
03:00 — Evolution, identity, and stepping out of the shadow
04:45 — Feeling unseen + recognizing your value
05:55 — The decision to leave + choosing yourself
06:25 — Fear, courage, and asking what’s out of alignment
08:45 — “Little deaths” and navigating life transitions
10:30 — Grief, silence, and finding light
11:30 — Activism and the Do a Little Foundation
13:45 — Ancestry, identity, and passing belief to the next generation
17:00 — Raising curious, open-minded children
18:15 — Standing fully on your own + freedom
19:40 — Letting go of the past + living in the present
20:30 — Compassion, judgment, and “being the rainbow”
21:50 — Family, support, and generational impact
22:15 — Defining hope
23:00 — Who this book is for
24:15 — Growth, reflection, and taking ownership of your life
25:10 — “Shed the old, walk through the fire…”
25:30 — What’s next + where to find Deborah
26:30 — Closing

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New episodes drop every Monday, so you can begin your week with a little light and a lot of hope.

For more stories, reflections, and ways to connect, visit www.DanielleElliottSmith.com or follow along on Instagram @daniellesmithtv and @HopeComestoVisit

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The people who make us laugh the hardest often carry the deepest stories.

In this episode of Hope Comes to Visit, Danielle sits down with comedian and storyteller Kelly MacFarland for a conversation that moves seamlessly between humor and heartbreak.

From navigating profound loss to finding joy again, Kelly shares what it looks like to live fully—even when life feels heavy.

This is a conversation about resilience, perspective, and the quiet ways hope finds its way back in.

What You’ll Hear:

• How humor can help us process life’s hardest moments
• Kelly’s experience navigating grief and loss
• The reality of living with intrusive thoughts and OCD
• What it means to evolve in relationships and in life
• Why feeling seen matters more than we think
• The story behind her comedy special Hot Gnome
  
  

This episode will make you laugh. It may make you tear up. And it will absolutely remind you that you are not alone.

Listen now—and share it with someone who might need a little light today.

00:00 Introduction & Welcome
03:25 The Power of Making People Laugh
06:15 Finding Your Voice & Being “The Funny One”
08:45 How It All Started in Comedy
10:20 Relationships, Habits & Relatable Humor
14:30 Love, Growth & Evolving Together
18:45 The Reality of Long-Term Relationships
22:30 Anxiety, Control & Real-Life Stress
27:00 Grief & Losing Both Parents
31:30 OCD & Intrusive Thoughts
35:30 “We Can Do Hard Things”
39:00 Growth, Confidence & Aging
42:30 Joy, Presence & Perspective
45:00 Comedy, Boundaries & Staying Relatable
46:00 Creating Hot Gnome
49:30 What Hope Means
51:00 Taking Risks & Saying Yes
53:00 Mental Health & Daily Check-Ins
55:00 Closing & Where to Find Kelly

Connect with Kelly:
Website: https://kellymacfarland.com

Watch Hot Gnome on YouTube

Thank you for listening to Hope Comes to Visit. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with someone who needs hope today, and leave a review - it helps others find their way to these conversations.

New episodes drop every Monday, so you can begin your week with a little light and a lot of hope.

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What if the signs you’ve been noticing… aren’t coincidence?

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Hope Comes to Visit, I am joined by Barbra Banner—a no-nonsense psychic, evidential medium, and transmedium known for delivering messages with clarity, humor, and heart.

Together, we explore what happens when we open ourselves to the possibility that those we’ve lost are still with us—just in a different way.

Barbra shares her unexpected journey into mediumship, what it means to trust your intuition, and how connection to spirit can help us move through grief—not by letting go, but by understanding love never leaves.

I also share a bit about my own experience of loss, signs, and the moments that changed everything.

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered:

• Are the signs real?
• Can I trust what I feel?
• And what if they’re still with me?

Because sometimes… hope arrives in ways we never expected.

Connect with Barbra on her website.
On Instagram. And on her YouTube Channel.

Thank you for listening to Hope Comes to Visit. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with someone who needs hope today, and leave a review - it helps others find their way to these conversations.

New episodes drop every Monday, so you can begin your week with a little light and a lot of hope.

For more stories, reflections, and ways to connect, visit www.DanielleElliottSmith.com or follow along on Instagram @daniellesmithtv and @HopeComestoVisit