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That's Where I'm At

That's Where I'm At

著者： Laura Richards
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 Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that's messy, real, and truly inspiring!2023 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • EP 75: Breaking the Trauma Bond: Taking Back Your Power

    EP 75: Breaking the Trauma Bond: Taking Back Your Power
    2026/04/01
    In this episode of "That's Where I'm At," host Laura shares her personal journey of healing after divorcing a narcissist. She explains the psychological and chemical roots of trauma bonding, the confusing emotions survivors face, and the challenges of breaking free. Laura offers practical steps for recovery, including going no contact, journaling, rebuilding identity, seeking support, and trauma-informed therapy. She emphasizes self-compassion and patience, reassuring listeners that healing is possible and encouraging them to reclaim their lives. Laura closes by inviting listeners to join her supportive community and reminding them they are not alone in their recovery. Key Topics & Timestamps Purpose of the Podcast & Sharing Stories (00:00:31) Emphasizes the importance of sharing difficult stories for collective healing, especially for women. Trigger Warning (00:01:13) Brief warning about potentially triggering content in the episode. Understanding Trauma Bonding (00:01:21) Laura describes her conflicting feelings after leaving her marriage and introduces the concept of trauma bonding. Personal Experience with Trauma Bond (00:02:31) Shares her emotional struggle post-divorce and the confusion of loving and hating her abuser. Intermittent Reinforcement & Abuse Dynamics (00:03:30) Explains how abusers use intermittent reinforcement to keep victims attached and feeling small. Shame and Staying Too Long (00:05:59) Discusses the shame survivors feel for staying and the psychological manipulation that keeps them in abusive relationships. Chemical Basis of Trauma Bond (00:06:59) Explains the brain chemistry behind trauma bonds and the need to rebuild positive chemicals after leaving. The Good Memory Trap (00:08:14) Warns against idealizing isolated good moments in abusive relationships and describes ongoing hypervigilance. Addiction to Hope & Beginning Healing (00:09:23) Clarifies that survivors are addicted to hope, not the abuser, and introduces the first healing steps. No Contact Rule (00:10:41) Stresses the importance of going no contact to break the trauma bond and protect oneself from manipulation. Practical Steps for No Contact (00:11:41) Shares her personal approach to no contact, including blocking on social media and handling mutual friends. No Contact in Co-Parenting & Boundaries (00:12:46) Advises on maintaining boundaries and low contact when full no contact isn't possible, especially with children. No Contact is Survival, Not Cruelty (00:13:49) Explains why staying friends with a narcissist is dangerous and reinforces that no contact is about survival. Journaling for Clarity (00:14:59) Recommends journaling to document abuse, validate experiences, and avoid romanticizing the past. Reconnecting with Identity & Dreams (00:16:02) Encourages rediscovering passions and rebuilding identity lost during the abusive relationship. Building a Support System (00:18:09) Highlights the importance of finding supportive communities and professionals for healing. Trauma-Informed Therapy & Somatic Healing (00:19:19) Advocates for trauma-informed therapy and somatic practices to heal both mind and body. Self-Compassion & Patience in Healing (00:20:44) Emphasizes self-kindness, patience, and the gradual nature of recovery from abuse. Breaking the Inner Voice of the Narcissist (00:22:05) Describes the process of reclaiming one's own thoughts and voice after leaving abuse. Encouragement & Final Thoughts (00:23:10) Offers reassurance about the healing journey, normalizes setbacks, and encourages persistence. Powerful Quotes from the Episode 'I also didn't know until I started to understand some things that you can actually have two opposing thoughts. You can actually hate somebody and love somebody at the same time.' 'So remember that you weren't addicted to him. You were addicted to the hope of the person he pretended to be.' 'No contact is not cruelty. It is survival.' 'You hating him and missing him at the same time does not make you weak. It makes you human.' 'The confusion is not a sign that you made a mistake leaving. It's a sign of how deep the bond went.' RESOURCES: GRAB THE TRAUMA BOND ACTION GUIDE: https://laurarichpodcast.systeme.io/trauma-bondCOACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlauraYOU'RE NOT CRAZY ebook: GET IT HEREMARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HEREJOIN THE NICE GUY RECOVERY COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/nice-guy-recovery-community-1517 "You weren't addicted to the person—you were holding on to the hope. Healing begins when you choose yourself over that illusion." Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com Contact us for expert podcast production and support.
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    24 分
  • EP 74: Healing and Rebuilding Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse with Coach NiaRenee

    EP 74: Healing and Rebuilding Your Life After Narcissistic Abuse with Coach NiaRenee
    2026/03/25
    In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura sits down with Coach NiaRenee, a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach, author, and advocate dedicated to helping survivors rebuild their lives after emotional and psychological abuse. As the founder of How to Love a Battered Woman LLC and creator of the Battered Hearts Rising methodology, NiaRenee combines professional expertise with lived experience to guide survivors through deep healing, self-reconnection, and the restoration of self-trust after toxic relationships. Known as the Empathy Powerhouse, NiaRenee is passionate about amplifying the voices of survivors and creating spaces where healing, clarity, and empowerment are possible. Her work goes beyond leaving abusive dynamics—she helps individuals untangle trauma bonds, strengthen boundaries, and rebuild their identity so they can form relationships rooted in safety, respect, and emotional security. In this powerful conversation, NiaRenee shares her journey of surviving both childhood and adult abuse, and how those experiences shaped her mission today. She and Laura explore the challenges of recognizing abuse, breaking trauma bonds, and unlearning harmful patterns influenced by societal and media narratives. Together, they emphasize the importance of self-awareness, community, and support in the healing process. This episode offers hope, practical tools, and encouragement for anyone on the path to reclaiming their voice, identity, and power. Key Topics & Timestamps Coach NiaRenee's Background & Advocacy (00:02:20) NiaRenee discusses her advocacy work, credentials, and motivation for helping survivors. Personal Journey into Coaching (00:03:42) NiaRenee shares how her personal experiences with abuse led her to coaching and developing her methodology. Rebuilding Self-Relationship After Abuse (00:05:44) Discussion on the importance of repairing the relationship with oneself after abusive relationships. Leaving the Last Abusive Relationship (00:06:36) NiaRenee talks about leaving her last abusive relationship in 2019 and recognizing unhealthy patterns. Childhood Abuse & Family Dynamics (00:07:02) NiaRenee reveals her childhood sexual abuse and growing up with a narcissistic mother, and how it shaped her. Normalization & Glamourization of Abuse in Media (00:11:40) They discuss how media normalizes and glamorizes domestic violence, making it harder to recognize abuse. Love Bombing & Societal Conditioning (00:13:15) Exploration of love bombing, societal messages about romance, and the impact on boundaries. Learning Healthy Love & Setting Boundaries (00:15:01) NiaRenee describes learning what healthy love looks like through friendships and setting new standards. Unlearning Patterns & Trauma Bonding (00:16:38) The process of unlearning old patterns, trauma bonding, and the importance of self-awareness. Losing Friendships During Healing (00:19:32) NiaRenee and Laura discuss losing friendships that mirrored abusive patterns during their healing journeys. Individual Healing Journeys & Coping Strategies (00:22:04) They share personal healing methods, emphasizing that everyone's journey is unique. Finding and Using Your Voice (00:24:05) Both discuss how speaking out, crying, and sharing their stories helped reclaim their voices. Starting Social Media Advocacy (00:25:03) NiaRenee explains how she began sharing her story on TikTok and the impact of her skits. Balancing Content Creation with Heavy Topics (00:27:04) Challenges of creating content and supporting others during overwhelming world events. Coping with Triggers from Current Events (00:28:25) NiaRenee shares how she manages triggers from the Epstein files and the importance of self-care. Supporting Survivors & Using Your Platform (00:32:21) The importance of amplifying survivor voices and using platforms for advocacy. Calling Out Societal & Political Narcissistic Abuse (00:34:44) Discussion on recognizing narcissistic abuse in political and societal contexts. Recognizing Psychological Abuse (00:37:09) Highlighting the prevalence of psychological abuse and its portrayal in media. Upcoming Movie "My Narcissist" (00:37:41) NiaRenee talks about her role in the upcoming movie that depicts psychological and emotional abuse. Breaking the Cycle & Family Healing (00:43:03) Laura and NiaRenee discuss breaking generational cycles, family healing, and accountability. Powerful Quotes from the Episode NiaRenee, 'I just want to show other people that there is life after abuse.' NiaRenee, 'Those relationships felt familiar, so I thought I was supposed to stay in them because that's just how relationships are.' NiaRenee, 'I think it's deeper than us loving ourselves, because how do we love ourselves if we've never been shown how to be properly loved?' NiaRenee, 'The more you're self-aware, the more you pay attention to what your body is telling you, the more you realize that you trust yourself to make decisions.' NiaRenee, 'I cried for...
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    47 分
  • EP 73: From Surviving to Thriving: Practical Steps for Women Rebuilding After Toxic Relationships with Trish Lynn

    EP 73: From Surviving to Thriving: Practical Steps for Women Rebuilding After Toxic Relationships with Trish Lynn
    2026/03/18
    In this episode of That's Where I'm At, host Laura welcomes Trish Lynn, a life coach and identity recalibration mentor who helps women rebuild their internal operating system after trauma, toxic dynamics, and years of self-silencing. After leaving a 16-year narcissistic relationship, Trish rebuilt her voice, regulated her nervous system, and redefined her identity from the inside out. Today, she guides women in healing their self-concept, reclaiming their voices, and becoming the version of themselves who can be seen, heard, and fully expressed without collapsing. In this powerful conversation, Laura and Trish discuss the journey from victimhood to empowerment, exploring the challenges of rebuilding self-esteem, setting boundaries, and rediscovering identity after leaving toxic relationships. As a single mom and survivor of narcissistic abuse, Trish shares personal insights about healing, parenting, and overcoming self-doubt, while offering practical guidance for women ready to reclaim their confidence and rebuild their lives. The episode highlights the importance of self-care, nervous system healing, community, and authenticity in the recovery process, offering hope and actionable insights for listeners on their own path to healing and empowerment. Key Topics & Timestamps Guest Introduction: Trish Lynn (00:01:23) Trish's background as a single mom, survivor, and content marketing strategist for women recovering from toxic relationships. Why Trish Chose Her Niche (00:02:20) Trish explains how her own experience with abuse influenced her business focus. Impact of Abuse on Business & Self-Esteem (00:02:58) Laura and Trish discuss how toxic relationships undermine confidence and business success. Regaining Voice & Authenticity Online (00:03:42) The struggle to express oneself authentically after abuse and the importance of self-trust in content creation. Dealing with Criticism & Perception (00:06:12) Handling negative feedback online and learning not to internalize others' perceptions. Teaching Self-Worth & Boundaries (00:08:47) Helping women rebuild self-worth, set boundaries, and value their work after toxic relationships. Overcoming Sabotage & Brain Fog (00:15:35) Trish shares how her ex sabotaged her business and the challenges of parenting and working during abuse. Holistic Healing: Nutrition & Self-Care (00:18:43) Trish's holistic approach, including nutrition and self-care, to support healing and business growth. Parenting & Breaking Generational Patterns (00:24:47) Teaching children healthy boundaries and breaking cycles of abuse for future generations. Reactive Abuse & Healing with Children (00:28:16) Discussing reactive rage, apologizing to children, and mutual healing after leaving abuse. Narcissists' Lack of Accountability (00:36:25) Red flags: abusers never take responsibility for problems in any area of life. Public vs. Private Persona of Abusers (00:37:19) How covert narcissists appear charming in public but are abusive at home. Rest, Self-Compassion, and Nervous System Healing (00:39:37) The importance of rest, self-compassion, and nervous system regulation after leaving abuse. Rediscovering Joy & Self-Care Rituals (00:41:02) Finding happiness, daily rituals, and self-care as part of rebuilding life and business. Overcoming Guilt & Building a Business Post-Abuse (00:42:14) Letting go of guilt, making bold moves, and growing a business as a single mom. Money Mindset & Leaving Despite Financial Fears (00:43:46) Shifting money mindset, setting intentions, and leaving toxic relationships even with little or no money. Knowing When You're Done & Taking the Leap (00:46:04) Recognizing the moment you're truly done and ready to leave, regardless of circumstances. Helping Complete Beginners Start Businesses (00:47:15) Trish supports women at all stages, including those starting from scratch. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Trish, 'For so long, I wasn't allowed to have an opinion. If I had an opinion that was my own, it was the wrong opinion for sure.' Trish, 'Energetically, I didn't have the capacity to be in that relationship and grow my business. I was walking on eggshells every day.' Trish, 'I sat for a moment and I'm like, I failed. My biggest thought was I failed my kids, and now I'm like, no, I didn't, because they are seeing something so much better and I am their safe space.' Trish, 'I am breaking these patterns so that my little girl does not grow up thinking this is how we are treated. And my boys, I do not want them to grow up thinking this is how we treat women.' Trish, 'Having the compassion for yourself to take the rest when you need the rest, because coming out of it, your body needs that time to heal.' RESOURCES: COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura YOU'RE NOT CRAZY ebook: GET IT HERE MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE JOIN THE NICE GUY RECOVERY COMMUNITY: https://www.skool.com/...
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    50 分
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